Killers block you or make it difficult to exit your comfort zone, they hinder change, evolution and new possibilities. They also kill desires and prevent thinking while cannibalizing resources. Sometimes they do it explicitly, other times they act sneakily.
Killers are tiring but they are yours, they have developed as adaptive responses and, most of all, they are alive, lively and contribute to make you unique and, when acknowledged, even more true to yourself. It would be impossible, worrisome and even risky to get even with the killer, trying to kill it. Metaphorically, the killer is a hole between yourself and your development goal, hindering your qualitative leap.
The empowerment approach does not aim to fill up the hole (time passes by and opportunities do not wait for you), but rather to make it anyway in spite of the hole. This is a part of yourself you should get to know (when does it come along? What does it make you do?) and learn to talk to. This is what we do in our workshops.
We give it a name (acceptance), we allow ourselves to examine in what ways it is limiting and hindering us (venting), but we also acknowledge it has been useful as it, at least partly, contributed to make us what we are (gratitude).
This stance will allow you to make a new agreement with your killer, letting it express itself while at the same time “managing” it in those moments when you are trying to accomplish something important for you.
Among the strategies to handle it are alliances with people who support you.